Category: Gratitude


Adultrens


There has been a problem within our family. Not a big one. One I do remember from when I was the grown up daughter with little ones of my own. That shout that says, “I am a grown woman! Why are you still treating me like I am a child?”

Now my daughter and sons have spoken the same thing to me, They were more polite about it and I got the message. I explained that they are still the precious people they were for me when they were small. But I have always respected their minds and points of view. I always knew they were smarter than me. And their advice is stellar. But there isn’t a word that says that. Offspring, children, kids=all wrong.

So here is my word and I say it with love and pride: adultrens.

If you are newly adult through your 40s what are you called? What would you like to be called?

If you are parents of adult offspring, how do you solve this problem?


Chronic Disease

Chronic Disease (Photo credit: tamahaji)

Celebrities battling Chronic Illness (some of them may surprise you!) : Putting Experiences of Patients First.   A couple of days ago, I posted this article on my paper: Dar49 Daily at Paper.li.com. I found it so profound that I thought I would share again. It isn’t that I am happy to see others suffer like I do or worse than I do. It is just nice to see a bit of validation for those of us who have invisible diseases/disorders. That it wipes us out of the work force could be seen as psychological. And if you saw some of the jobs many of us have had you might look forward to getting out of those jobs, too. But if you have a successful career in acting, singing, or otherwise in the public eye, the disease/disorder becomes real. I miss working in public. I don’t miss the pain of standing all day. I miss working in a fun office atmosphere. I don’t miss data input or sitting all day.

Two days ago, I was excited.

Let me share a little about my household. My husband and I moved to Reno to be closer to my four adultrens. It is a small two bedroom apartment that was okay for the two of us. It felt safe for me when my husband worked nights. But after a few years here, my brother called from Florida. He was homeless with a bad infection in his foot. Now, like me, you may laugh. Of all places to be homeless, the beaches of Florida with coconut palms all around. But after being laid off and then this foot that needed 16 stitches and having lost all his Earthly goods to the landlord he was sunk. We are not rich. But when a loved one, especially my brother is that down and out, I will move Heaven and Earth to help him. Finally, my ex came through with the money to get my brother to safety. He chose to come here and has lived with us ever since sharing monies and skills as he can. Often he is the chief cook and bottle washer as I go through my flares.

Then my husband’s son called from OC California. He, too, had lost his job and found himself homeless without money. Did you feel the Earth move? Yep, we did that to bring him here.

Then my husband retired. He was having his own health issues.

What was once a comfortable, though tiny, apartment with a room I called my studio/office where I had my piano and set up for writing and alone time, now became very tight fit. My brother has the former studio/office. It works for him as he writes and paints and researches. He was working for quite a while here but then got laid off again.

When my husband was working nights, he would sleep in a recliner in the living room while I worked in my office, or now in the master bedroom. His son has taken over the living room where the rest of my hobbies, and piano lived. He has a job. He doesn’t make much but it helps all of us. He has taken over the recliner when hubby moved back in with me for we now share the same sleeping patterns. The problem was the recliner was breaking. He ended up on the floor for a couple weeks. Then a friend at work gave him a seven foot sofa. It works perfectly for him. But my piano was in the way.

Did I mention that we went from a small two bedroom? When step moved in we got rid of our kitchen table and planted his bed there. The landlords didn’t like that, fire hazard, etc. But that left an empty dining area. None of us eat the same things vegan, gluten-free for me, carnivores the rest. So anyway, no reason for a table. Look at that! Room for my piano and desk! My studio has reappeared! All that story to say what I was excited about. A place to work!

piano baru

piano baru (Photo credit: apaan)

Which brings us back to the first paragraph. I worked so hard a few days ago to get my studio/office into some kind of order I would want to work in. Then–bam! Fibro-flare from hell. I can only work in my office the days that son is at work. This is his Friday. After spending the afternoon in bed, I think I am ready to get out and try to play a tune or two. I doubt I will last long. It will be worth it all to touch my baby with the ivory keys! Can you imagine being able to sit in my office and Dragon-Speaking on my projects? And the caterwauling that can occur when my piano and voice get in synch! Well, the Earth is about to move again!

Now. I have never shared this much. Too much? Well, welcome t0 my life! 😀

Dragon NaturallySpeaking

Dragon NaturallySpeaking (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

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Another Fibromyalgia & Exercise Study. Sigh.. I have been turning down stories about this latest news because I felt it wasn’t true. The worse cases, most likely to be shot into flares by the exercise programs, either didn’t find it possible to follow through, or didn’t even start.

I try to be the person who exercises. I can’t stay with it. I have dreams of running. I can’t make it to the kitchen or bathroom without being dizzy and putting myself into a flare, especially when the weather is unstable. My husband and I start by just walking around our apartment complex. We feel excited when we can make one round. It is .10 of a mile. I used to walk a lot. Eight miles was nothing. I loved being outside. I used to love swimming. The big F hit and the only swimming I can do is in a hot springs pool.

Instead, to keep my mind active, I am on the internet all day or reading books. At least I am one step above curling up and sleeping all day. Those are the worst days. So I applaud myself for the small things I can do! Yay, me!


You know that feeling when you finally hit the sand at the beach, you take off your shoes and feel the warm grains of sand massaging, absorbing your feet and spirit, and then that precious moment when you stand in the foam and hear the pounding of waves, smell the salt in the air? Or that moment when the car gets to the forest of evergreens and you have to stop the car as your eyes release the tension of the sun and city, and you smell the pine and dirt? That is how this blog affected me.

Okay, I am not doing the sunrise thing. Been there, done that. But I understand the concept. The only way a sunrise is beautiful to me is when I have had a productive writing night and I see it as time to go to sleep, at last.

The rest of this speaks to my soul. I hope it speaks to yours, too. Thank you, Jasmine, for sharing on http://kuuleilani.wordpress.com.

16 steps to happiness.


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A little over a  week ago, I was excited to be nominated for the Leibster Award. By Linda G Hill . Thank you, VERY much!

Then I saw the list below for what is required. Yikes! And what is a Leibster Award anyway? I’ve sat on this for a week and finally decided to do a Google search. The first entry is a blog by Sopphey who was kind enough to share her research into the topic. There you can find the history of the Leibster Award and a bit about why it is there.

http://sopphey.onimpression.com/2012/05/liebster-blog-award-origins.html?showComment=1369520456139#c7661018021133390795

 

List 11 random facts about you. The following are MY randomnesses. What are YOURS?

  1. 1.      I am addicted to Game of Thrones, I’m on my second read through and can’t even count how many times I have watched the series.
  2. 2.      I love to sing and play the piano but haven’t been able to since we moved in these apartments.
  3. 3.      I love to read/review fantasy/sci-fi books that are written by woman with strong fem main characters. Obviously I slip every now and then (see #1) You can find my reviews on GoodReads, Amazon, LiveJournal, Smashwords and various other places I am still learning about, i.e. Libboo, etc.
  4. 4.      I love to play with Tarot Cards and read astrology books.
  5. 5.      I am VERY ADD!
  6. 6.      Plarn is one of my favorite fiber to crochet with. I feel I am saving the planet while I make soap dishes, scrubbies, planters, pencil/pen holding bookmarks, can cozies, water-bottle carriers, hats and other items of used plastic bags. I do crochet with yarn but haven’t the coin to buy it. Plarning saved me this last Christmas when I had no money to buy gifts for loved ones. Okay, the plarny items were all that special, but I think my loved ones knew I loved them. And I had fun in creating these gifts.
  7. 7.      I collect dragons. I love dragons. They appear often in my own novels.
  8. 8.      I recently was diagnosed with diabetes. So I am on mission. I have gone vegan and gluten-free, will trying to be GMO free, and organic as much as possible. Oh, and I love coconut oil!
  9. 9.      I am learning about GeoCaching seems like my friends are having fun with it.
  10. 10.  My husband is retired, I’m on disability, so we go to bed hopefully by 4AM and hopefully wake by lunchtime.
  11. 11.  I hate writing about me and making others read it. L

Answer the questions that were asked of you.

Nominate 11 other blogs for the Liebster Blog Award and link to their blogs.

Notify the bloggers of their award.

 

  1. Dreampunk Geek
  2. ESL Donna
  3. Maddie’s Blog
  4. E.J. Runyon’s Author Blog
  5. Suzanne’s Writer’s Dream Journal
  6. Laurie’s Muse and Musings
  7. Lynette Mae, Author
  8. ADD Adult Strategies
  9. Northern Nevada Disability Access
  10.  Eyagee’s Blog
  11. Get on my plate!

Ask the award winners 11 questions to answer once they accept the award.

 

The following are the questions with my answers. What would YOUR answers be?

1. If you could live anywhere in the world, where would it be?

            Near or on the ocean. I love the beach in any weather.

2. How many pairs of shoes do you own?

I am not a typical fem. There was a time I ogled over shoes. Now I wish for comfort. Mostly I love to go barefoot when I can. That said: three pair of tennis shoes, multiple (10?) pairs of flip-flops, one pair of “dress” shoes.

3. Where were you born? (city and/or country – whatever you’re comfortable revealing)

I lived most of my life in Southern California. I miss the variety I was able to be a part of there.

4. Are you superstitious?

If I were, would I have picked this beautiful black cat that is sleeping next to me out of the scores of cats in the pound?

5. What’s your favourite fruit?

It used to be apples, in summer it is watermelon. Right now I am in love with the grapes.

6. If you could collect anything, what would it be? Anything at all.

            Dragons!

7. Name the members of what would make up the ultimate band, dead or alive.

            Mozart, Paul McCartney, John Williams, Ramin Djawadi, Stephen Sondheim

8. What song can you not help tapping your foot to?

            Game of Thrones, keeps me awake at night!

9. If you could paint the walls of your living room in any colour, what would it be?

            My living room used to be a bright yellow. I loved it, helped me wake up in the morning.

10. Are you or have you ever been addicted to a game?

            Card games (online or real cards), Sudoku, Ravenhearst, Apples to Apples and board

games.

11. Are butterflies pretty or creepy?

            Beautiful unless they decide to walk on me when I don’t see them first.

If I notified you of winning the Leibster Award. Here are the tasks to share with the rest of us:

 

List 11 random facts about you.

Answer the questions that were asked of you.

1. If you could live anywhere in the world, where would it be?

2. How many pairs of shoes do you own?

3. Where were you born? (city and/or country – whatever you’re comfortable revealing)

4. Are you superstitious?

5. What’s your favourite fruit?

6. If you could collect anything, what would it be? Anything at all.

7. Name the members of what would make up the ultimate band, dead or alive.

8. What song can you not help tapping your foot to?

8. What song can you not help tapping your foot to?

9. If you could paint the walls of your living room in any colour, what would it be?

10. Are you or have you ever been addicted to a game?

11. Are butterflies pretty or creepy?

Nominate 11 other blogs for the Liebster Blog Award and link to their blogs.

Notify the bloggers of their award.

Ask the award winners 11 questions to answer once they accept the award.

Gratitude and Friends


I just finished sending a thank you note to a friend. This is what happened:

My eyes were getting worse and I found I couldn’t read ‘tree’ books. My friend, let’s call her Jane, heard my complaint and said she had a page magnifier. I declined it as I didn’t want her to sacrifice her own vision. Then I got paid and went ‘Amazoning’. I found one fairly inexpensive that might work. Meanwhile, another friend, let’s call her Sally, was upset that she couldn’t see to do her bead work. She and Jane met up together. Later Sally told me that Jane was passing a page magnifier to me. It works great for my needs and I passed the hands-free model to Sally.

The next email I read took me to this WordPress article.

Gratitude and Friends.

I am so grateful for my family and friends. Often it is hard to tell who is which.

 

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